When You Decide to Stay With Someone Who Cheated on You

Don’t let people shame you into breaking up if it’s not the right decision

Stephanie Leguichard
7 min readMar 17, 2021
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She was heartbroken.

But she couldn’t tell what was hurting her more — the fallout from finding out her husband had cheated on her, or being shunned by her friends and family for choosing to stay with him.

My friend Sarah married Joe about 5 years ago. I remember attending their beautiful wedding. It was a jubilant affair. They were great for each other, and it was really obvious to everyone.

In the years that followed, they had two kids. As they both became busy with their jobs and with the kids, they gradually spent less quality time together.

But in spite of that, Sarah was really happy with her marriage. She figured that she could always rely on him. But that changed about 6 months ago — when she learned that Joe was cheating on her.

The way she found out was brutal.

She was driving home from work after her boss let her go home early. On her way home, she went to pick up takeout at one of her and Joe’s favorite cafes. She expected to see the usual familiar faces of the staff.



Stephanie Leguichard

Writer, editor, leftist activist. Endlessly fascinated by the complexities of human minds and cultures. Completing my MA in Anthropology. sleguichard@gmail.com